Time Commitment

I can't believe that I didn't recognize that Alex was acting like me dad. He was only seeing me at meals during the week and on one or two evenings a weekend (the evenings were only after 9pm) and church together on Sunday. We only lived 300 yards from each other. He said that I didn't have to sit with him at meals, that if I wanted to sit with other people he would be ok, but I wanted to sit with him at meals because it was the only time he said he had time to hang out with me during the week. So, if I didn't sit with him and his friends at meals on weekdays, I would have only seen him on weekends.

I didn't notice that my boyfriend was not committed enough to spend more than the minimum amount of time with me that is required to make the relationship work. Well, he spent less than the minimum because he did not even spend that amount of time with me. I didn't notice because my dad didn't spend time with my mom or me when I was growing up, so I saw it as acceptable to not want to spend "too much" time with me.