Can you say DRAMA?

So my roommate, S*, and my friend, J*, broke up last summer in early June, even though they had bought a ring and he was going to ask her to marry him. So then they didn't talk all of Fall semester and she didn’t even come back to college. Then, in the Spring, she came back to school and she and J*. S* was very upset because S* and J* weren't technically dating and he would occasionally go out with other girls, but she would sometimes and go out with other boys too and make J* mad.

So then J* and S* decided to go to counseling together because S* said J* was being wishy-washy and they needed to know whether they could really work things out or not. By mid-semester, J* and S* were making out and going to 3rd base. Then, they "accidentally" went all the way one night. That was crazy and involved me sitting in the room during chapel with S* while she took Plan B that J* had gotten for her. S* freaked out and said she couldn’t be with J*. But a few days later they were back to talking and going on walks.

So the pattern continues: one of them says no to dating, the other begs for the other to come back, the other comes back, one of them messes up, the other says no to dating, and lots of fighting ensues. The fighting really messes with the balance of our friend clique.

Anyway, so the summer rolls around eventually… They decide they will officially break up because they both have supposedly found other people during the summer and they stop talking. That seems fine and dandy until my entire group of friends (all 6 of us) decides we should go to the lake and chill for a week before school starts in honor of one of us graduating that past May. However, things cannot just be that simple. A few days before the trip, S* calls J* and tells him he shouldn’t drink that week because otherwise her sister (who is coming, apparently) won’t come and then S* won’t come without her sister. J* gets mad and tells S* that she just has to accept him how he is and that he doesn’t have the problem with alcohol that she thinks he does and that he isn’t going to quit smoking for her either. Well, S* cries and freaks out and ultimately doesn’t come to the lake "to make things easier on the group." Of course, S* ends up texting J* multiple times a day while we are at the lake.

So school starts up again last week and both J* and S* return. At first everying is fine and dandy and J* even helps move all of our stuff in. But then S* says it's too hard to be with him and around and complains that he won’t stop hugging and poking and flirting. She calls “it” (which was never official) off. However, J* sees that S* is still in love with him and he wants to keep trying and so writes her a beautiful letter asking S* to try again. She says no. But she really wants to because she still loves him and so they end up "doing stuff." But she still doesn’t want to date. J* is frustrated because she "refuses to be in love with him," in his words. He is also frustrated because she keeps SAYING she doesn’t to be with him, but he knows she loves him and that she does want to. But she knows that she shouldn’t and that she needs to be free of him. J* feels like he is being played and S* feels like J* isn’t playing fair.

So they night after J* professes his love and S* feels conflicted, J* goes on a date with some girl he used to date before he dated Sarah. That some night, S* finds a love note that is supposedly from J*’s car to S*’s car. The love note includes a proposal. Kind of weird. J* had written a fictional note from his car proposing to S*’s car! Oh, and then J* spends the entire next evening with this new girl too. So, understandably, S* is upset.

Then today, me, 2 friend who are almost engaged, S*, and J* decide to go to the mall. Well, J*'s new girl shows up and hangs with us. S* is upset and acts totally weird and tries to be normal but is clearly ANGRY. And I am angry too at J* for being so stupid. So S* tries to rally herself and calls her sister's bf and his friend to come hang out with us. Result: S* and two boys and J* and his new girl, and me and B+B (B+B=the couple) are caught in the awkward middle. We try to hang out, but it was the worst mall trip ever.

On the way home, J* insists on poking the back of S*'s head to try to flirt or something but it only makes S* cry and say "Please! Stop! PLEASE!" and then cry silently while we all sit there in awkwardness. J’s girl had gone home in her own car, btw. So B+B drop us 3 off at the cafeteria and we three go in and have dinner in silence. J* and S* then leave the cafeteria together. I follow 3 minutes after them only to find them talking quietly and intensely outside my dorm. I ignore them and walk past and into my room. When I walk out to go get a coffee, I ignore them again. When I come back to my room, I continue to ignore them. When I leave yet again, I choose a different route.

I come back into the room and S* is sitting there crying, but I don't want to deal with it because my day has already been awful and whatever she has done is just going to happen again. So I grab my laptop and head out because I have a Skype date in 2 minutes and can’t Skype when she is crying in the room

So S* texts me and asks why I am angry. I say that "I am not angry, I am disappointed and frustrated that something that should have ended a year ago is still going on and I have to watch the hurt it causes." Then she replies "I am very disappointed right now, you are the only friend I have on this campus right now and instead of being my friend you are ignoring and judging me. I don’t need or want you approval but I’d sure like you friendship."

So I told her I had had a Skype date and I also did not want to interrupt her and J*. To which she said "You came to the room to get your laptop and you didn’t speak a word to me. The discussion with J* was over then. I’m getting out of there. I don’t know when I’ll be back."
And I haven’t heard from her since.
Living with her is ridiculous.

Also, here’s a short story from earlier this week about S* and her broken heart:
B+B are going to get married. They speak openly about it and even discuss the names of their future children at the dinner table with all of us.

B*female said something the other day along the lines of, "B*male and I have been dating over a year and once you're over a year, you can pretty much tell if he is the one or not." S* blurted out, "no you can't, the number is 22 months, if you can make it past 22 months, you can get married. You and B*male are still in a baby relationship." It pissed B*female off so much.

S* was really indirectly venting about her and Jake and more mad that a relationship was working for someone else and not her, but it really hurt B*female. I mean, S* personally attacked B*female's relationship with vindictiveness she has continued to do so throughout this week. B+B aren't engaged. They aren't going to be engaged until next semester. They will not get married until they have been dating 30 months, actually. January 2012.

I can relate to S* too though. It wasn't until April or May (an entire 16 months after becoming single) that I could look at a happy couple and not want to stone them

Vajazzled! haha

My own mother just hung up on me. We were talking on the phone and she just hung up in anger. Confused? -First, remember that my mom is codependent. And that she has recently promised to make good on her promise t go to much-needed counseling. So even when she finally agrees to go to counseling, she wants to do it to please someone else (me, sister, dad).

She was discussing with me her choice to go to counseling and asks me what she should talk about with the counselor and what I think her issues are that need to be dealt with. I told her that defeats the point of counseling and she should do it herself and she was just being codependent.

That was when she hung up. Oh well.

In other new, going to NYC and Longwood Gardens was fun this weekend, but Jason seemed to become obnoxious in NYC when around a group of people. It totally turned me off and I don't think I can be bf/gf. I am glad I discovered that before I committed to a long-distance relationship. Perhaps something will happen in the future, but I don't really see it.

Mary and I got Brazilian waxes and then Vajazzled! It was so much fun and we are so glad we got them done. Mine is a star.