Maine 07 Pics, Other Stuff

My family went to Maine May 23-30. My mom invited Paul and Sarah Henderson too. Well, she actually invited (to Maine) any teenage boy that came within a 2 mile radius of her. Not kidding. She tried to get Tyler, Vince, and Alec to come also. She just invited boys she thought were "nice". Luckily, only Paul and his twin sister agreed to come. It was fun. Regrettably, I didn't spend much time with my sister because Paul wanted to hang out with me and Sarah wanted to hang out with Mary. Paul is so incredibly metro it's almost scary.
We watched a movie every night after dinner. Paul, Sarah, Mary, my mom and I all sat around the television, enjoying some obscure foreign film that I had picked out the previous week at Blockbuster and brought with me to Maine. My dad, however, went in the bedroom and slept, read, or did something that didn't include the rest of the family. My mom thinks he excluded himself; Paul thinks my father felt excluded and so was.
Either way, when we got home, my mom and I went for a walk and she told me that the reason she was trying to go back to work was so she would have a steady, well-paying job for when she divorces my dad next summer. I can't help but wonder if she's all talk, or if she will actually do it sometime. She's been speaking of divorce for about 2 years now, but claims that, even from the 1st year of marriage, she was disappointed with my father. For instance, her car broke down a few months after they got married and he refused to come and pick her up, he told her to call someone else (she called an old boyfriend who came right away). It's sad. My mom remembers every detail of every time my father has let her down, shown how much he refuses to sacrifice for her. She will probably end up dating Phil for a while, a pastor who lives in Wisconsin that she went to high school with. She likes him, he calls her occasionally, he's in the middle of a divorce from his wife. None of that is very disturbing for me, it kind of fits in with how I know my mother and who she is. What is very troubling to me is the fact that she says "I truly think God is leading me in this direction", meaning, the direction of getting a divorce. However, Malachi 2:16 seems to say that God wouldn't do that... I tend to think that God is not as legalistic as people may be led to believe. I mean, if we were all following His will perfectly, we would all love each other perfectly, so I do not believe there would be divorce. But because we are sinful and depraved and do not do His will, we may marry someone who was not made for us. However, I do believe that God can heal anything in any way He desires. But would God use divorce as a means rather than change someone's heart? Well, what if someone refuses to let God change them? God does give us free will, He does not force us to follow Him, we can refuse to be molded by God.
Hmmm, I looked online, and there's a website that says: "God realizes, though, that since a marriage involves two sinful human beings, divorce is going to occur. In the Old Testament, He laid down some laws in order to protect the rights of divorcees, especially women (Deuteronomy 24:1-4). Jesus pointed out that these laws were given because of the hardness of people’s hearts, not because they were God’s desire (Matthew 19:8)."




Here's an e-mail I wrote to Adam last night, still haven't mentioned mom's future divorce plan:

Hello,
Hope I didn’t interrupt your night too much with my text message. I was at my bestfriend's birthday party and was just feeling kinda lonely, wanted someone to hold me, and got to wondering if there would be anyone to hold me at Asbury College this fall. You should look at UK, University of Kentucky, it’s only 20 minutes away from Asbury.
It’s kinda scary to think of going to college. I’m not gonna have anyone who really cares about me (I mean, maybe once I get to know people, but not right away). My friends here at home have started to distance themselves from me. I think it’s cus they know I’m going to leave in August, they’re not doing it on purpose, just subconsciously, but they’re doing all the same. They don’t call me and are doing other things when I want to hang out. It’s not all in my head, I’ve had two of my friends’ parents tell me they noticed their kids had stopped hanging out with me and talking about me since I announced I was leaving.
So you know on Friends, when Phoebe makes that pact with a guy that if neither of them are married by the time their 30, they will marry each other? Haha, promise me you’ll do that for me =P. Seriously Adam, your answer to my text message was possibly one of the best text messages I have ever received.
Thanks for listening to me,
Love,
Amy